Happiness is so important that the King of Bhutan, the last Buddhist kingdom in the Himalayas, decided the best way to foster economic development would be to boost the nation’s gross domestic happiness or GDH rather than on the GDP. Bhutan’s emphasis on the happiness of the people above all else appears to have produced society wide benefits. Most people are subsistence farmers, they have what they need… food on the table and universal health care. They have refused to make money from commercial ventures that might compromise the health and beauty of their environment and their egalitarian existence.
In becoming happier we boost our immune systems, energy levels, improve our engagement with work and other people, and improve our physical and mental health. In becoming happier we bolster our self esteem and self confidence and come to believe we are worthy human beings, deserving of respect. As we become happier we benefit not only ourselves but society at large. I recommend “The How of Happiness” by Sonja Lyubomisrky.
“The Constitution only guarantees the American people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself.” Benjamin Franklin
More and more I have searched for the keys to happiness. I have come to realize that happiness is directly related to self love and enlightenment and reflected by your ability to achieve success in whatever you seek.
Some people, like Deepak Chopra may say that happiness is the purpose of our life. (The Ultimate Happiness Prescription book). To be clear, success in life is a byproduct of happiness. We are talking about inner happiness and what others may refer to as bliss.
Meditation can stimulate certain brain chemicals that elicit happiness and help increase self esteem.
Many people carry wounds from the past and learn to focus our lives on escaping yesterday’s pain and avoiding more pain. In being present we release past and future, can focus on our breath in the present and go within.
Eastern wisdom traditions like Buddhism teach there are 5 basic causes of unhappiness.
1. Who Am I? i.e. not knowing your true identity.
2. Illusion of permanence in the world.
3. Fear of change.
4. Identifying with false ego.
5. Fear of death.
By learning your true identity, who you really are, all these areas of suffering will cease. People have found this to be true for 3000 years, by going deep within and looking inside for self realization and discovery. It is found in your consciousness that is beyond ego, mind and intellect.
This is the era of increased consciousness. At New Year many wished other Happy New Consciousness,… may all have peace, love and harmony in their lives and equality for all. Such fulfillment is found in self realization.
We are all connected to the Divine Source of all creation, God consciousness by whatever name you know, and the eternal flame in the heart symbolizes this. When you have found that flame, you have found Enlightenment. Christians may call it the sacred heart of Jesus. Others may know it as the blue flame of wisdom, compassion and enlightenment. This flame dispels all darkness.
We are 99.99999% energy and thus transcend space and time as well as cause and effect. Knowing your true identity as energy is where you will achieve fulfillment. Our existence is rooted in this deeper state of being. It is our Divine Essence, our God Self. Enlightenment is simply finding the way to reach this state and being able to realize this is the true me. Then happiness ensues and permeates all. It’s up to each of us to find out how to achieve this state, so ultimately, enlightenment is within our grasp and the secret to happiness is in our hands. Within our deeper state of being, our true consciousness, lies a field of potential so vast and we are co-creators with God We create our life by what we reach out and choose in this vast field of potential, by observing it and thus drawing it into our material life in time and space.
Happiness is our birthright. The closer we come to achieving our core consciousness at our deepest level, we release darkness and unhappiness and draw forth Light and Joy into our lives and all around us.
We are not in the universe, rather, the universe is within us. The more we become aware of our bodies we become aware of our connection to the universe because we are One.. the same energy and consciousness and thus we can tap into the All Knowing state as we evolve our conscious awareness. As we listen to and become aware of our body we tap into this infinite field of possibility and achieve peace, harmony and happiness.
“There is but one temple in the universe and that is the human body.” Thomas Carlyle
The more we become aware we realize that mind, body and spirit are one. Our body is our sacred altar or temple of God to dwell within us in one Divine consciousness. And we need to honor it as such by being mindful of the nourishment we take in for our highest and best. So as we grow in awareness of our body, likewise we grow in wisdom of our universal and Divine self and the field of unlimited potential.
Remember, when body, mind and spirit are in harmony, as one, happiness occurs. On the other hand, disharmony is reflected in pain, anxiety, anger, worry, depression and so forth. If we realize such unhappiness has entered into our being either physically, mentally or spiritually, we can take steps to change. Just as we have allowed it in or drawn it to us for whatever reason, we can also give it eviction papers.
There is a saying, “the issues are in the tissues.” This tells us these felling enter the brain, our CNS and every cell and tissue of our body. So the answer is to become aware of our body and our true being, to plug into our connection to Source, our Divine Energy and reclaim our inner Joy of our beings. Awareness is intuitive so as we become aware of what is happening in our bodies we can recognize the disharmony and recreate what we desire, health and happiness.
The only constant is change, but change is never neutral. We are either changing for the better or worse, growth or decline. The choice is ours. As we recognize we are in cause always, that there is nothing out there except what we create with our thoughts and feelings and actions, we take responsibility and that is the first step to change. We can then reach out into that vast field of potential and choose more wisely.
Remember that the body and mind and one with the universe. Deepak Chopra says that when we listen to the body we listen to or eavesdrop on the mind of the universe. This divine universal intelligence helps us to make wise decisions in our life to help us reach the fulfillment we seek. Fulfillment is achieved by right thoughts, right feeling and right action and we align our biological rhythms with the universe, or one verse and one song.
Creativity breaks inertia and keeps us in the flow of universal consciousness. In such creativity we feel truly alive and in sync with Divine will and our personal power expressed in mind, body and spirit. The mind expresses power as attention and intention. The body expresses power in physical strength and endurance. Spirit expresses power as we create through field of potential our reality. This is manifestation and through intelligence, creativity and power we can manifest happiness. We tap into intelligence, creativity and power as we finely tune our awareness of our body. Once we withdraw our awareness by being depressed, distracted, withdrawn or apathetic, the connection is broken with our flow of intelligence, creativity and power. Most disease of the body is by this decreased awareness and disconnect with the flow to our Source.
So how do we stay attuned to our body and stay connected? As we feel ourselves stray, through emotions or distractions, focus on our breath and that will bring us back to our body. Harmony and happiness is our body’s natural homeostasis. Stress pulls us out of it and into reactive mind, distractions and escape. What do mind altering drugs or alcohol do? They numb our awareness and our connection is broken and so it just creates more pain. Awareness heals and leads to wholeness and this type of healing and wholeness should be as constant to us as breathing.
If we lose our way, we can choose to reconnect. One way is to focus on the space or energy between objects, the space between thoughts, the space between our breaths and we will find ourselves reconnecting our awareness once again to our true energy and Divine source and happiness. This space is the field of pure potential. Space is still and as we focus on it we still the mind and we allow our body to release stress and tension.
As we may sit in this stillness, if our body is stressed it may react by tension, fatigue, pain, memories, thoughts, past hurts, tears and the body is signalling it needs this space to heal, which it is so doing. As it empties out, true healing begins to enter. If our body is in a natural state of being as we sit in the stillness, we may let go and go deeper into our consciousness, finding peace, lightness and joy.
When our body is in our natural state, happiness ensues. Our consciousness is filled with the All Knowing and joy and connection to the One That Is In All Things. In loving ourselves we attune our body to the divine connection of the universe and tap into the limitless flow of that energy, follow our heart of emotional intelligence as I recognize myself in others and strive for lightness of our being with right nourishment and rest.
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Buddha
“Do not wish to be anything but what you are and try to be that perfectly.” St. Francis de Sales.
When we are connected to our true being, we are connected to all that exists, without limitation, with infinite creativity, fearless and willing to reach into the unknown and draws to it outside circumstances to bring about the fulfillment of our intention. At this deeper level of consciousness we can manifest our desires and intention and find fulfillment and happiness in life.
If we have not manifested our desires and happiness in life then somewhere along the way we have forgotten who we really are. An ancient saying compares this to a millionaire walking the streets as a beggar because they lost touch of who they are, forgetting he has wealth in the bank.
When we don’t remember who we are, we have to fall back on our misplaced ego. If our ego does not get the approval and security it needs then it feels lost and afraid. An addictive behavior develops always seeking that approval or recognition or power. And then we find ourselves on the wheel of unhappiness as we have lost touch of who we are, our true identity.
These are the traits of unhappiness. The ego feels isolated and alone, always seeking validation by others to have worth. The ego feels limited because without power or control it is afraid all its weaknesses will be revealed. The ego prefers habit over creativity, preferring the same old, same old to feel secure. Above all the ego fears the unknown as a place of darkness and uncertainty. The ego struggles to get what it wants and feels a sense of lack. Feeling separate, helpless or alone indicates we have lost our connection to our true identity, as part of the flow.
If you feel wounded in some way, be with that pain and eventually it will dissipate. Ego wants to keep you locked into the past believing you need to constantly defend yourself. You can instead ask yourself, do I recognize this feeling of being wounded? As you recognize if from the past you realize it does not good to remember old hurts. If you ego was on the right path you wouldn’t have a toxic storehouse of old pain. Awareness diffuses old hurts. It is not intelligent to continue doing the same thing over and over and expecting new results. Instead of trying to live up to a self image, simply surrender to the innocence of Being.
If we can escape the ups and downs of the emotional rollercoaster based on the fears and insecurities of ego, as we reconnect to our Source and true identity we achieve a mean or stillness, without desire. Once we know who we are, Being is enough. Your true self is of the universe, God consciousness. When we are self actualized we do not need approval, are free from flattery or judgment, do not feel superior or inferior but act freely and fearlessly, with a calm inner stillness. We realize we are worthy no matter what anyone else thinks and then we can radiate our beauty and truth.
We can daily review ourselves at the end of the day by reflection on how much of our day was based on love or on ego which is usually affiliated with a sensation in the body such as tightness or pain. Did we stay connected to our true identity?
When we are out of sync with our true self we can experience any of the following: anger, anxiety, guilt, shame, poor self esteem, dysfunctional relationships and job functions. So we need to learn to release our attachment to the past and these feeling and situations that are toxic to our happiness. Any past traumas, inner resistance and rigidity block the flow of consciousness and we lose our power. As we clear away these obstacles we can attune to achieving a deeper sense of self awareness and our true identity.
“If you never assume importance, you never lose it.” Tao Te Ching
Our goal of life is to increase joy and happiness, If we judge others instead of seeing the world in love, that is the world we will inhabit. To be a victim is actually a form of self judgment. We wound ourselves each time we assume the role of victim. If we harbor past grievances, we tie ourselves to the one who delivered them and make them more powerful over us. We then are disconnected from our spirit, our Divinity. We must remember as Creator we created the circumstances of being a victim. So ask why we are in a state of consciousness that we are creating this. Then we can choose to create what brings us back to our true identity.
As we are aware and surrender, whatever we need at the deepest level is automatically there for us as we live in harmony with the Mystery. Be present is a statement that is often heard today. By focusing on the present, we will be renewed because then we are timeless and only in timelessness can we find our true self. In timelessness there is no thought. In timelessness we don’t need a reason to be happy, we just are. This is an important realization. If we need a reason to be happy, that reason can be taken away from us and then there is misery. Such happiness in based on something external. Happiness without reasons is real happiness that can never be taken away. It is often referred to as a state of bliss, in a silent state, not captured by time. Ancient wisdoms say time is the movement of consciousness or thought. So if we step outside of time, outside of thought, in present bliss, our bodies will be transformed as we are then in timelessness. The real you which lies outside of time, can only be found in the now. Being here is enough. As soon as a thought arises, an object appears along with an observer.
When our focus is on ego, we are focused on everything other than our being. By breaking through the barrier of ego, we transcend time. There have been instances where people that were in chronic pain succeeded in separating their situation from the present moment of time and their pain left them. They transcended a pain born in time.
To be present is to enter a state of mindfulness or paying attention. By simply being an observer and let everything else pass through you, then you are in a state of mindfulness. Being present is the same as experiencing presence and are effortless. You just are. It is a natural, relaxed state filled with joy. The real you is the bliss that exists beyond time…true happiness. A primary aim in life is to be present with your true self and mindfulness is the way.
Happiness can be found in seeing the world in yourself. As we focus on love, love will present in our inner and outer worlds. The same with any emotion. As we establish a flow of love and happiness, our lives will be filled with abundance and happiness as we attune to the deepest levels of yourself.
“In oneself lies the whole world, and if you know how to look and learn, the door is there and the key is in your hand.” J. Krishnamurti
The outer world reflects our inner reality. What we think, we create. So to create what we want in life we need to keep in mind consciousness is everywhere, infinite and flexible. Our consciousness creates our reality. Our true identity creates both our inner and outer worlds. In order to change the outer world, you first have to change your inner self. Our Divine self creates beyond space and time. Ideally change should be created in our inner and outer worlds simultaneously in feeling, thinking, doing and being.
Pure being is the highest level of consciousness. It is like childlike innocence and will be reflected in our inner and outer lives. Consciousness transcends personality and consists of loving kindness, caring and compassion, peace and equality for all and joy at other’s successes. To live in pure being, you have mastered creation. The laws of nature come to your aid when you call upon them using the power of intention. As pure being, loving kindness, our inner and outer realities reflect who we are.
When we achieve a constant flow of creativity from Source, joy and compassion follow. Any action taken from this state of pure being comes from more than personality and so will benefit more than just personal needs. It benefits everyone around you and the entire world. When wisdom keepers say, all you have to do is meditate, I believe this is what they are referring to.
Unhappiness in your inner and outer world signals we have moved away from our true state of being. It’s time to reconnect to our Source, beyond time and space, to recharge. Take our attention away from the situation and to the true self. Be mindful. This is stepping into your highest Observer self, removed from any reactive charge of the immediate situation. Then observe your breath and your body. You will begin to feel calm and centered as you raise your vibration in unconditional love.
Our mission in life is to seek enlightenment, or our true selves. It is a Divine God consciousness, filled with love, peace and joy, our natural state of being. As we awaken, we are free and raise the consciousness of all.
“I look into your eyes and see the whole universe, born and not yet born” Rumi
“A human being is a creature who has received the order to become God.” St. Basil
As enlightened beings, as co-creator with God, we create reality. As we succeed along this path we will find our lives flow with spontaneity, love is the primary motivation in our life, creativity and imagination flow limitlessly, we accept higher guidance in our lives and results of our creation benefit all around us. Simply put, we are expanding happiness wherever we go. As we grow in self awareness of our true self we will grow into cosmic consciousness and God consciousness in which all is Light. We are One. The state of bliss is our birthright. Service, compassion and devotion all lead to higher consciousness. As we enlighten ourselves so we will enlighten others.
Our happiness heals not only ourselves but others as well, including the earth. Happiness is one of our greatest contributions we can have to give back by spreading healing and joy to the world. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Who you are is shouting so loudly that I can’t hear what you’re saying.”
The healing effects of happiness travel at the speed of light. We are One, in God consciousness and there is a great healing brought to all by being profoundly happy. An ancient philosopher Protinus said, “Our concern is not merely to be sinless, but to be God.” As we live in the mind of God we can transform the world with happiness.
In a study on “peace of mind” performed by Duke University, several factors were found to contribute greatly to emotional and mental stability. Among common-sense indicators like avoiding self-pity and accepting challenges as a part of life, researchers identified other factors of peace of mind, including the ability to forgive and avoid living in the past, and a belief in something larger than oneself. Not surprisingly, these findings support God’s recipe for personal peace: accept His will; believe in His love for you and His plan for you; forgive and receive forgiveness; look forward to the future.
No matter what circumstances or habits are waging war on your inner peace right now, God can give you the grace to live in peace in His presence.
The average worrier is 92% inefficient—only 8% of what we worry about ever comes true.”
Charles Spurgeon said it best. “Anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, but only empties today of its strength.”
Most of us want to be positive. It’s advantageous to possess a sunny outlook. Doors open to optimists. They make friends, earn respect, close sales, produce loyal clients, and others enjoy and want to be like them.
Deepak Chopra attests to the fact that the best cure for sadness is happiness and that we can build our own happiness by avoided or eliminating anything that might diminish it. Do it now. Postponing happiness till a future day will not work. Neither will fixing your sights on merely external rewards.
Don’t expect someone else to make you happy. Don’t allow your emotions to become habitual and stuck or close yourself off from new experiences. Don’t ignore the signals of inner tension and conflict, dwell on the past or live in fear of the future. Most of all: don’t equate happiness with momentary pleasure.
In a consumer-driven society, it’s all too easy to fall into all the don’ts , because they share the same element: linking happiness with temporary pleasure and external rewards. Of course, we all live for the pleasure that life brings. No one is saying that you must deny yourself. But the most satisfying project you will ever undertake—and a mark of a complete human being—is to discover how to build a sense of happiness that no one can take away from you, because you have taken total responsibility for it. The journey to such happiness can take a long time, yet every step is one of fulfillment.
We can build our well being by building our happiness. Joy and sadness are not passing moods, they are a choice of perspective on life we have made. Inner peace is a long lasting state of happiness and well being. It is when body, mind and spirit are one. Peace of mind and feeling emotionally free are lifelong goals and worthy pursuits to live a life of contentment. What can we do then to cultivate such peace, joy and freedom? A strong sense of spirituality is an integral part of our lives, whatever that means to each of us individually. Then expanding into a universal consciousness of realizing we are One. To live each day in appreciation and a sense of awe brings humility and a sense of viewing the world with the eyes of a child, recognizing life’s miracles and magnificence.
Work at something we love, take care of others, be open minded and forgive past grievances, including self. Release being a victim. Live in the present. Associate with like minded people. Celebrate your achievements and success. Appreciate. Personal well being is a day to day journey in the school of life involving personal growth. Listen to our inner guidance and commit to daily practice of being all you can be. Walking in balance. Keep your vision in mind and be devoted to achieving it one day at a time, step by step. A positive attitude and taking personal responsibility we be your stepping stones. Joy, happiness and inner peace are the rewards. Believe in yourself and create a life of happiness. As we start with ourselves, we lift up all others.
Attitude is a choice whereby we control and create our life. Two people can look at the same situation in different ways eg. Is the cup half full or half empty? Freedom and peace of mind stem from the ability to choose happiness despite life’s circumstances, whether rich or poor, working or unemployed, in sickness and in health, whether alone or in a relationship. Happiness comes from within.
Sometimes we can be sailing along throughout our day, everything seems fine when all of a sudden something unexpected happens to send us a curve ball. Our reaction to such an event can be a gut response or if we are in a place of balance we will be able to handle any situations more easily.
What does it mean to be in balance? It is a matter of our individual perception of any event. In other words, it is not the event that is upsetting but how it is perceived. There is no one out there doing anything to us. So if we choose a victim role, that is a matter of perception. A change of attitude will bring freedom and balance. If we blame another for something, we give our power away. When we take responsibility for ourselves and our perception, we stand in our personal power.
Think about that. There is nothing out there that can ruin my day or my life unless I allow it. Our mind is that powerful. In “Smile For No Good Reason” he tells the story of how a man went into a cafe and the waitress accidentally poured hot coffee onto his lap, without any apology. A natural reaction would be initially shock and then anger at her incompetency. That is one perception. Yet after further investigation he learned that she her husband had just died in a motor vehicle accident and she needed a job to earn money to pay for her son’s chemotherapy for leukemia. See, suddenly another perspective becomes clear, compassion overriding the first initial response of anger. When we judge another, there is no place for love. Our attitude determines our life, moment to moment. An attitude of gratitude goes a long way and will ultimately bring happiness.
He states that healing ourselves to be happy is letting go of fear. Compassion is an example of how to let go of fear. By thinking of others rather than ourselves, we open our hearts and step out of our fear paralysis. Caring and kindness, reaching out and helping others are ways of being proactive and taking responsibility for our happiness in choosing a more positive attitude in life. This is true freedom. Finding ways to express love each day instead of finding ways to blame others or be upset. Remember, the cause of being upset is always our own attitude. We can choose kindness and compassion over grievances. Each day we can say, “May my eyes see 1000 beautiful things and may I touch 100 sacred objects and may love be reflected in my eyes and all around.” This is the miracle of Love.
Whenever we experience a loss of someone in our lives whom we dearly love, we may find it hard to come out of despair and once again achieve a state of balance and happiness in our lives. One way to do so is to recognize that there are other people in the world who are somehow worse off than we are at that moment. As we take our focus from ourselves and reach out to help others in need, we have successfully made that attitude shift.
There was a mother whose son had just died at age 19. He was bipolar and after many attempts finally succeeded in committing suicide. His mother went to God in prayer and asked for help. She came away with the inspiration to help the homeless. This was something her son used to do. If he saw a homeless person he would go into a nearby restaurant and buy them a meal. So she chose this as her mission and she would go out on the streets with some friends at night to where the homeless were. She handed out warm blankets, sleeping bags, woolen socks and gloves, toiletries and packed food. They expressed surprise and distrust at first, until they realized there was no catch, that she was giving these to them for free. Most of all, she looked into their eyes and saw them. In every case, they said thank you.